The concept of what makes a day "good" or "bad" has been a particular fascination of mine over the last couple years. I have wondered why bad days tend to happen together to form bad weeks or even months. Or how some people seem never to get a break and rarely have a good day. With most things in my life, I try to figure out what causes a day to be good or bad so I could optimize my odds of having a good day. I even tried to figure out an algorithm to improve these odds by adding little activities to my daily routine since I believe each little activity increases my odds of happiness through my future.
I am completely aware that this is not normal and incredibly geeky, but I have found that I think in formulas. I enjoy coming up with algorithms to help me understand how things work, emotional triggers and making decisions for future events. This being said, coming up with an algorithm for giving myself the best possible chances for a good day makes the most sense for me.
I started by determining what exactly defines a bad day. I defined it as a day with more significant negative events than positive events. These negative events are subjective to me first to realize they are negative, remember the event, give the event importance, and let it affect my emotions. I proceeded to repeat this for what defines a good day but with positive events instead of negative events.
Treating each event as a variable then allows me to manipulate the algorithm for what I consider to be a good day mentally since I can control some elements and have no control over others. For the first example, let's take an uncontrollable, unforeseen event. This event will have both positive and negative attributes, and both will be weighed into the formula with coefficients of the chances of me being aware, the importance I give it, and how I let it affect my emotions. This is where I could selfishly manipulate the algorithm in my favor since I could make an active effort to notice more positive attributes about events and not take notice of the negatives as much. This gives higher odds of an event being perceived as positive making the result, the collection of events, more positive as well. The next way I altered my algorithm is by increasing the odds of favorable events and decreasing the odds of the unfavorable ones. A simple example is getting the cold. Getting sick is a negative event that could be prevented by staying clean, washing hands, eating healthier, exercising, etc. By doing these common sense things and decreasing my odds of getting a cold could in return increase my odds of having a good day tomorrow.
I value some events that I used to take for granted very high. For example, every day I wake up with loving friends and family. If you think about it, that is already a good day because I am alive, and I have people that care about it, what else do you need in life?
While my algorithm isn't exactly scientific, it helped me to realize the most significant variable was my perception, and that was something I had the most control of.
When it comes down to it, the only deciding factor what makes a day good or bad is my perspective. If I believe I had a good day then I did and vice versa.
I can look at various events with a positive light and make the best out of every scenario. I love to find ways to make everything fun that helps me to have more good days than bad days.
In the past five years, I have only had a handful of bad days. I'm not saying that bad things didn't happen, or every day was 100% amazing, but I don't focus on the negatives anymore and only focus on what makes life amazing.